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Monthly Spotlight: Best Friends

Best Friends Day

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Origins

The International Day of Friendship was proclaimed in 2011 by the UN General Assembly with the idea that friendship between peoples, countries, cultures, and individuals can inspire peace efforts and build bridges between communities.

The resolution places emphasis on involving young people, as future leaders, in community activities that include different cultures and promote international understanding and respect for diversity. --United Nations

Read more about this in the General Assembly Documents.

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What Makes a Best Friend

According to the Merriam-Webster definition, a Best Friend is a person's closest and dearest friend, OR a person's most desirable or valuable possession or resource. But how do you know if you have truly found your best friend? What makes a friend the best? What makes a friend? Have a look at some of the articles we have found below and see if you have yourself a good and true best friend.

The Anatomy of Friendship

10 Signs you've found your best friend for life

Qualities of a Good Friend

What makes a Good Friend

Friendship

Science of Why Friendships Keep Us Healthy

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How to celebrate!

Here are some of our suggestions for how to celebrate National Best Friends Day:

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Evolution of Friendship

We meet new friends in some of the likeliest and unlikeliest of places. Whether it is through school or through the jobs that you take, friends can be found everywhere. But can people really be friends forever? Or will people outgrow the friendships they've made? Is it okay to let a friendship go? What are the signs of outgrowing a friendship? Are there ways for friendships to evolve? Find some of the answers you are looking for in the articles below.

Two Friends Tell the Story of their reunion after years of Separation

Children's Perceptions of Close Peer Relationships

Best Friends Forever? Race and the Stability of Adolescent Friendships

Friendships change and age with us

Development, Ecology, and Evolution of a Friendship

Lockdown taught us about being best friends

Outgrowing a Friendship

No one helps you mourn a friendship

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Types of Friends

Believe it or not, there are different types of friendships one can have. Some people say 3, 4, or 5 types, but Dr. Suzanne Degges-White says there are 7 different types of friendships. Learn about these friendships and read some articles to help distinguish what kinds of friends you have.

  1. Lifelong Friends
    1. Someone that you connect with, who you think you will be friends with forever. Not necessarily someone you see or talk to every day; often someone you may not see all the time, but you just pick up where you left off. Someone who knows you and whom you know, and you just accept each other for who you are and make time for each other when you need to. You may have lots of good friends throughout your life, but you will probably have very few lifelong friends. -- Boston College Library
    2. 'It Feels Unconditional': Secrets to Lifelong Friendships
  2. Best Friends
    1. A most cherished friend; something that a person particularly depends on or has a special affection for. --Dictionary.com
    2. BFF: Best Friend for a bit Longer
  3. Close Friends
    1. If you check some definitions, the term “close friend” can be understood as somebody who you can talk to about everything, who makes you feel comfortable without the fear of judgment. A “close friend” can also be someone who is always there for you and cares about your well-being. -- Cambridge Dictionary
    2. Understanding the Associations Between the Number of Close Friends and Life Satisfaction
  4. Social Group Friends
    1. Friends you socialize with but with whom you are not particularly close. -- Psychology Today
      1. Think classmates, co-workers, etc.
    2.  Employee Flabbergasted by Management's Patronising Note Insisting 'No Fun' in the Workplace
  5. Activity Friends
    1. Friends with whom you engage in specific activities, such as “gym buddies,” members of your book club or dinner club, church circles, and so on. -- Psychology Today
    2. How an Intergenerational Book Club Can Prevent Cognitive Decline in Older Adults: A Pilot Study
  6. Friends of Convenience
    1. The folks with whom you might share carpooling duties, youth sports team parents, neighborhood groups, etc. --Psychology Today
    2. Future Colleague or Convenient Friend: The Ethics of Mentorship
  7. Acquaintance Friends
    1. People at work, people you see each day when you’re walking your dog, folks you know to speak to, but not about anything of consequence or especially personal. --Psychology Today
    2. The Surprising Importance of Casual Acquaintances

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Can Guys and Girls be Friends?

The age-old question that has everyone stumped. Can Men and Women just be friends? Strictly platonic? No romance whatsoever? Look through some of the articles below to learn more about why this subject can be so confusing.

Same-sex and Opposite-sex best friend interactions among high school juniors and Seniors

Gender Differences in social motivation and friendship experiences of Autistic and non-autistic adolescents

Why boys and girls can never, ever be friends

Can men and women be friends?

A Love Letter to Platonic Friendship

Batman and Barbie, Best Friends Forever?

From the show New Girl, Schmitt gets his back scratched by Jess as he says

Male Friendships VS Female Friendships

Platonic relationships aside, there can also be a lot of differences when it comes to same-sex friendships. Apparently, there can be enough differences that there are plenty of studies showing the differences between male and female relationships. Check out those articles below!

Gender Differences in Adolescents' Behavior Conflict Resolution Tasks with Best Friends

Teen girls' friendships are stronger than boys'

When Friends Disappoint

Why friendships among men are so important

Boys and Girls have different expectations about friendship

Boys and Friendships

Boys and Girls problem talk

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How to Make Friends as an Adult

One of the many difficulties of getting older is making new friends. This can come about because of changing locations, new opportunities, or simply because you are going as a person. It can be daunting, to say the least, but not impossible. Look at some of the articles below for guidance on how to make more friends as an adult.

How to make and keep friends as an adult

Here to make friends

How to make friends as an Adult

How to make friends as an Adult in the UAE

Dating apps are expanding their reach

Katie Strick goes in search of a BFF